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Stop sending ‘fare’ to her; a lady accepting money sells herself-Expert

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  • A man worth his salt will ask a woman out on a date and not send her fare. The woman accepting fare to show up for a date sells herself short.
  • What happened to a woman making the decision to invest her time and other resources for a date? What is this weird trend about men sending ‘transport’ to women? When did our men lose the skill of wooing a woman to the level of bedazzlement? Did the lyrics run out?

What happened to be a well-informed, humorous conversationalist such that a woman would love your company and show up – by her own means – for a date with you? Why would I accept a man to pay the cab, or bus for me when I can pay for it? Doesn’t it take away my power of decision when I ask a man to send me fare for showing up at our date? What is going on, good people? 

In my time – I see you roll your eyes and call me a dinosaur – we saved up and met on an equal footing. Be it that first date ever after high school when I borrowed our neighbour’s lipstick to sneak in for an ice cream date with my fellow teenage crush, to our first-ever date with Hubby as a career woman, I paid for my fare at the least. He footed the first bill, but on our second date, I paid for our drinks. 

We have a problem. First of all, today’s man no longer feeds his brain. Gone are the days when we exchanged books, read great minds, discussed themes and plots and visited mysterious places through the pages of a book.

Today’s man is this shallow-minded keyboard warrior consuming hate-filled posts and spewing the same right back. He has nothing tangible in the form of brain matter to offer a woman. So what does he do? He buys her affections with a measly mobile money loan. A man worth his salt will ask a woman out on a date and not send her fare. He expects that she will be interested enough to meet him. The woman accepting fare to show up for a date sells herself short. How does she not see this as an insult to her person? 

Monthly allowance? 

Never give a woman your ATM card. It’s a sexist statement, I know. But if money is all that you show a woman, then that is all that she will value you for. When the money runs out, do not be stunned that she will also pack and go.

I was shocked to learn that there are wives who receive a monthly allowance from their husbands. I complained to our couple mentor, that my husband does not give me a special allowance. Never mind that we have a family budget that includes our allowances to do as we deem. 

“A woman feels good to receive some money from her husband, even when she has her own.”

This statement from our friends softened Hubby’s heart and he gave me his ATM card and, of course the PIN. I do not know what tender he had walked into as he had managed to load the debit card with some substantial cash. By coincidence, it is at this time that I realised how ancient and threadbare our curtains had become. I replaced them and had the curtain rods redesigned. Our kids needed a wardrobe upgrade, Hubby too, and since Toi Market does not accept card payments, I went to the shopping malls.

Our mattresses needed the waterproof covers I had seen advertised, and I got that sorted. Our sofas were an eyesore. Hubby took the ATM card back before I could get the seats sorted. This got me extremely upset, and I wondered then of what purpose was a husband when he could not let me have his ATM card without grudging about it. His worth seemed to have been temporarily tied to that money card.

The minute he withdrew it, I was forced to once again use my brain and hands for an honest day’s work. A wise thing he did, too, seeing as Covid-19 came along and ‘shown us things’ as we Kenyans say when we can’t find a fitting description of a terrible experience. We are changing the seats even without his ATM card. Gentlemen, stop sending fare. If she sees your worth, she will show up, even if you are in Lodwar.

Source:Karimi Gatimi of Nation Kenya

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I’ve Been Living with High Cholesterol for Years — Here’s How I Made My Lifestyle Healthier


How one active man took his routine up a notch to benefit his heart.

Jay, 76, has always had — in his words — a healthy addiction to exercise. “I did something physical every day,” he says. “I played baseball and tennis and ran four to five miles three times a week.” So he was shocked to find out he had high cholesterol. “I was in my 30s and I was healthy,” he says. “It was concerning.”

Like many diagnosed with high cholesterol, Jay wasn’t experiencing any symptoms. So when he found out that his low-density lipoprotein cholesterol (LDL-C) — the “bad” cholesterol — was over 140mg/dL, he and his doctor had some decisions to make.

Tweaking his lifestyle

Otherwise in good health, Jay was resistant to taking medication every day to move his LDL-C to the point where it should be: under 100mg/dL. Instead he focused on other lifestyle choices.

“I thought simply eating fewer fats and sweets would handle the problem, so I cut down on red meat and fatty foods like pizza and junk food,” he says. “I also went on daily walks, alternated lifting weights with aerobic exercise every other day, and danced at every social event that had a band.”

That’s exactly where to start, according to Michael Blaha,MD, LIVALO® (pitavastatin) spokesperson and director of clinical research for the Ciccarone Center for the Prevention of Cardiovascular Disease at Johns Hopkins Medicine.

“High cholesterol can be managed with an individualized treatment plan created with your doctor,” he says. “Whenever possible, we recommend physical activity
— 30 to 40 minutes of moderate- to vigorous-intensity exercise three to four times a week — and a heart-healthy diet that’s low in saturated fat and cholesterol and high in fiber.”


Taking the next step

Jay had no problem sticking with his exercise routine and eating plan, but it turned out not to be enough and his high cholesterol stubbornly stuck around. “My mother had high cholesterol and high blood pressure, so the doctors concluded it was purely hereditary,” he says.

That’s when he and his doctor decided to add medication to the mix — specifically, a statin, which is a prescription medication that can help reduce cholesterol in the body. “He told me that if I was his brother, he’d want me to try a statin,” Jay says. “He explained it would work in combination with my diet and exercise to help me achieve my cholesterol goals.” In 2014, Jay started taking LIVALO® (pitavastatin), and he hasn’t looked back.

His cholesterol levels are within a range that pleases his doctor and Jay feels comfortable relying on LIVALO to help keep his levels in check. “My doctor explained to me that while there are several statins available, not all statins are the same — what works for one person’s individual needs may differ for another,” Jay says. “He [Jay’s doctor] also said doctors may choose to prescribe LIVALO for those taking multiple medications to treat other conditions because it has a reduced risk of interacting with other medicines.”

LIVALO is a cholesterol-lowering medication called a “statin” for adults with high cholesterol that, along with a heart-healthy diet, helps to lower total cholesterol, “bad” cholesterol (LDL-C), triglycerides, and Apo B and to raise “good” cholesterol (HDL-C). LIVALO has not been studied to evaluate its effect on reducing heart-related disease or death. Ask your doctor if LIVALO is right for you. LIVALO is not right for everyone. Do not take LIVALO if: you have a known allergy to LIVALO or any of its ingredients, you have active liver problems, including some abnormal liver test results, you are nursing, pregnant or may become pregnant, as it may harm the baby, or you are currently taking cyclosporine or gemfibrozil. Common side effects include back pain, constipation, diarrhea, muscle pain, and pain in the legs or arms. Please see Important Safety Information on the right, and full Prescribing Information.

Today, Jay shows no signs of slowing down — volunteering with the homeless through a local non-profit, attending almost every one of his favorite baseball team’s home games, and looking forward to getting back to his favorite pre-pandemic activities: travel, visiting with family around the country, and taking hip hop lessons.

If you want to speak to your provider about your treatment options, this customizable doctor discussion guide can help you begin the conversation.

Dr. Blaha and Jay are paid LIVALO representatives.

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Emmanuel Bedzrah worried over ‘undue delay’ in passage of anti-LGBTQ Bill

Emmanuel Bedzrah

The legislators spearheading the passage of the Proper Human Sexual Rights and Ghanaian Family Value Bill are worried over the “delay” in the passage of the Bill.

A year after the Bill was presented to the Speaker of Parliament, it is yet to be passed.

Speaking on the floor of Parliament, the Member of Parliament for Ho West, Emmanuel Bedzrah, said the undue delay is getting them worried.

“We brought the bill to this house last year, and we are yet to hear anything about it. There has not been any mention of the bill since we resumed, we are well aware that the standing orders clearly state that a bill in the committee should not go beyond three months.”

“We are greatly concerned and want to know when the second reading of the bill will be taken in order for us to move to the consideration stage.”

The Bill on the Promotion of Proper Human Sexual Rights and Ghanaian Family Values’, was presented to Speaker, Alban Bagbin on Tuesday, June 29, 2021.

The Bill prescribes that people of the same sex who engage in sexual activity could spend up to 10 years in jail.

Varying forms of support for the LGBTQ+ community will also be criminalised if the Bill, known as the Promotion of Proper Human Sexual Rights and Ghanaian Family Values Bill 2021, is passed into law.

The members of Parliament that presented the bill are, Sam George, Emmanuel Bedzrah (MP, Ho West) Della Adjoa Sowah (MP, Kpando), John Ntim Fordjour (MP, Assin South), Alhassan Sayibu Suhuyini (MP, Tamale North), Helen Adjoa Ntoso (MP, Krachi West), Rita Naa Odoley Sowah (MP, La Dadekotopon) and Rockson Nelson Dafeamekpor (MP, South Dayi).

The bill is currently at the committee level in Parliament, where public hearings are being held by legislators.

While data indicates that most Ghanaians are in favour of the Bill, it has faced criticism from renowned artists and academics.

Source: Citinewsroom. com

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‘Tigers at Wonda World Estates pose no danger’ – Wildlife Division

Freedom Jacob Caesar and his two tigers

Officials of the Wildlife Division of the Forestry Commission say the two tigers belonging to business mogul, Nana Kwame Bediako, popularly known as Freedom Jacob Caesar, pose no threats to the inhabitants of the estate.

Some residents at Wonda World Estates, Avenue Lincoln near the British High Commission at Ridge in Accra, had expressed worry over the presence of the two tigers at the estate.

They claimed they are not comfortable sharing the estate with the carnivorous animals and have called on appropriate authorities to relocate them.

Meanwhile, speaking to the media on Friday, May 20, 2022, the Director of Operations at the Wildlife Division of the Forestry Commission, Luri Kanton, indicated that “the tigers are safe, healthy and well protected and relocation will be done after investigations”.

After visiting the premises of the Wonda World Estate where the tigers are being kept, Mr. Kanton told the media that “a new structure would’ve to be constructed at a new location before the relocation of the animals could be done”.

This he noted, will take about two months.

Meanwhile, Samuel Tiwonitaaba Kuteba, the trainer of the tigers, said the animals have been declawed and are under strict veterinary guidance.

He debunked rumours that the animals were smelly and dangerous to residents.

I bought the 2 tigers to boost tourism in Ghana – Freedom Jacob Caesar

Freedom Jacob Caesar had explained that he brought the animals in a bid to boost Ghana’s tourism.

“First, it is right, I have two tigers that I bought on a bid between Ghana and Dubai. I was the representative from the private sector that initiated my interest in purchasing these two animals. But we did go through the process, the animals are seven months old, still at the very young stage.”

“I went in to buy these animals to add the value of tourism in our country. I wanted to go into the Safari World by making sure that Ghana becomes the first country in the whole of West Africa, East Africa, and Central Africa, except for South Africa, which has these animals.”

Source: Citinewsroom. com

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